Detox/Retox and The Two-Thirds Theory

The cleanse has mostly been undone by an unfortunate night of drinking.  I’ll blame it on that last shot — who knew it would be someone’s birthday at midnight?  It was fun, probably not worth it, and I’m not going to feel guilty for overloading my clean, pure body with alcohol.  Actually, I am, but I’m going to try not to.  El Chapultapec is really fun, and the music was amazing.  Definitely going back there.

The best cure for a hangover is a really long walk.  I put on the layers and went out, but made it only as far as the coffee shop — ice on the sidewalks means slow-going, and slow-going is cold-going.  No walk today.

You know what?  I’m surrounded by a lot of really great people, and I’m so thankful for that.  The end of this week was pretty rough, but it would have been worse if not for a lot of sweet words and comments and phone calls and hugs.  Sometimes I think of myself as a pretty solitary person — I can be, but all things considered, I have a knack for finding really fantastic people (or somehow they find me), and somehow keeping them in my life in spite of time, distance, and busy schedules.

One of my favorite blogs, Les Cadeaux, is written by a stranger in New York who I think would be an excellent big sister (I’ve told her this).  A few months ago she wrote about the Two-Thirds Theory, and it’s stuck with me since then.  Basically, the idea is that you have a social life, a romantic life, and a professional life, and if two of the three are going well, you can be happy.  I’ve thought of this a lot lately, and I think it makes a lot of sense, even more with a few revisions.  I have a few other “lives” that weigh in.  My health is very important to me, and I like to feel like I’m doing well in that area.  Also, I have a financial life — it’s not about having the most, but having enough.  And I have an intellectual life…  So maybe there are six lives I need to concern myself with.

Anyway, I’ve been feeling a little down lately, but sometimes I just need to take a step back and examine things…

Social: I’ve been neglecting my social life a little bit, but it’s still there, and I have great friends (see above).

Romantic:  My romantic life is obviously not going so well, but I think the end of this recent relationship will only allow it to get better.

Professional: I haven’t been feeling good about my professional life lately — it’s been pretty monotonous, I don’t feel like my work is appreciated, and I don’t feel like I’m having a direct, positive impact on society, which has been getting to me.  Yesterday I had a long talk with the colleague I work most directly with.  He sees what I do, and appreciates it, and puts up with a lot of the same issues (basically, if things are going well, we’re taken for granted, and we really get most of our feedback when things don’t work, which is crummy).  But we’re building this pretty amazing system, and we’re challenged every day, and we’re learning.  I’m so glad he’s there.  Oh, and I got a merit increase — nothing huge by real-world standards, but not too shabby for academia…

Health: I am a very healthy girl, and it’s something I’ve worked hard at and am proud of.  There’s always room for improvement — I would like to be more active in these winter months (if only it weren’t so cold!), and I’ll feel better when last night’s alcohol is out of my system, also.

Financial: Bouncing back after the new brakes, and the raise will help.  I am financially independent, financially secure, finally self-reliant (thanks, Hannah, for reminding me of the value of that).

Intellectual: Sometimes I feel like my brain is turning to mush, but it isn’t.  I’m really looking forward to taking that social psychology class next quarter.  I’m reading a lot lately.  I’d like to make a point to spend more time looking at art…

Another theory from my friend Cassie: “Good things happen to good people.”  I think of that one a lot, too, and I pass it on frequently.  And then people pass it back to me (two of you yesterday, actually — thank you so much).

Okay.  Since the walk didn’t work out, I’m opting for a hangover breakfast…  Happy Saturday.


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