Comments on: Back in the Game http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/ only the best bits Tue, 22 Dec 2009 18:14:50 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: leslieann http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/#comment-683 leslieann Tue, 23 Oct 2007 01:43:15 +0000 http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/#comment-683 It's not preachy, Hannah, it's hopeful. Thanks. :) It’s not preachy, Hannah, it’s hopeful. Thanks. :)

]]> By: Uncle Hannah http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/#comment-666 Uncle Hannah Sun, 21 Oct 2007 03:57:52 +0000 http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/#comment-666 I totally understand that feeling of wanting to marry a down comforter. Frankly, I am amazed I married as early as I did. I have always wanted to be attached, but still. I have always been eccentric and a bit intense and very emotional, even though I am a good person at heart--I felt for a long time and still do that I scared men off. I met my husband on the internet (which was sort of my comfort zone). Everyone scoffed at me (this was 8 years ago so it was slightly less common) and was worried he was a serial killer. Hehee. WELL anyway. I hate to sound cliche (or maybe I secretly love it, I dunno) but I believe that true connections (friends or lovers) are fairly effortless (even if there's an occasional fight or whatnot) and they will come to you as if you're a magnet. However...the unfortunate fact of the matter is that you may never know how or when it will happen, but when it does happen it HAPPENS. I try to pay attention to people who really strike me and follow up on them. The very first day I talked to my husband online I felt a difference between him and the string of mismatched losers (sorry guys) that I'd been dating before him. I have no doubt you'll find that person, in other words. It's just that timing is a very weird thing, I've found. I would say definitely celebrate who you are now and what you are accomplishing, because a husband and kids (though fulfilling) will complicate that and will not replace or fill your personal happiness quota. Love! Uncle Hannah (sorry if this sounded preachy) I totally understand that feeling of wanting to marry a down comforter. Frankly, I am amazed I married as early as I did. I have always wanted to be attached, but still. I have always been eccentric and a bit intense and very emotional, even though I am a good person at heart–I felt for a long time and still do that I scared men off.

I met my husband on the internet (which was sort of my comfort zone). Everyone scoffed at me (this was 8 years ago so it was slightly less common) and was worried he was a serial killer. Hehee.

WELL anyway. I hate to sound cliche (or maybe I secretly love it, I dunno) but I believe that true connections (friends or lovers) are fairly effortless (even if there’s an occasional fight or whatnot) and they will come to you as if you’re a magnet. However…the unfortunate fact of the matter is that you may never know how or when it will happen, but when it does happen it HAPPENS. I try to pay attention to people who really strike me and follow up on them. The very first day I talked to my husband online I felt a difference between him and the string of mismatched losers (sorry guys) that I’d been dating before him.

I have no doubt you’ll find that person, in other words. It’s just that timing is a very weird thing, I’ve found. I would say definitely celebrate who you are now and what you are accomplishing, because a husband and kids (though fulfilling) will complicate that and will not replace or fill your personal happiness quota.

Love!

Uncle Hannah (sorry if this sounded preachy)

]]> By: E.K. Wimmer http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/#comment-652 E.K. Wimmer Fri, 19 Oct 2007 15:26:35 +0000 http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/#comment-652 Everything is easier said than done. That's why I blast Celine Dion. Everything is easier said than done. That’s why I blast Celine Dion.

]]> By: leslieann http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/#comment-650 leslieann Fri, 19 Oct 2007 03:17:34 +0000 http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/#comment-650 Melissa: I will love my CHI if it ever comes. I actually discovered them in England a long time ago -- I came back asking hairstylists about these new ceramic straighteners, and they looked at me like I was crazy. Now they all own them, and I still don't (until tomorrow, maybe Monday (which is after the date!)). Eric: I totally get what you're saying. First dates are awkward, and your suggestion is the ideal. But my pool of single, cool, straight, unattached guy friends is not very big. I fear that organizing things (like the dinner I wrote about in this post) stresses me out, and shows the worst side of me (the anti-social side that is married to my down comforter). I guess anyone I know would find out about that anyway, but... the whole "be friends first" thing is easier said than done at a certain age and in certain professions... Maybe I should be an engineer next... Melissa: I will love my CHI if it ever comes. I actually discovered them in England a long time ago — I came back asking hairstylists about these new ceramic straighteners, and they looked at me like I was crazy. Now they all own them, and I still don’t (until tomorrow, maybe Monday (which is after the date!)).

Eric: I totally get what you’re saying. First dates are awkward, and your suggestion is the ideal. But my pool of single, cool, straight, unattached guy friends is not very big. I fear that organizing things (like the dinner I wrote about in this post) stresses me out, and shows the worst side of me (the anti-social side that is married to my down comforter). I guess anyone I know would find out about that anyway, but… the whole “be friends first” thing is easier said than done at a certain age and in certain professions… Maybe I should be an engineer next…

]]> By: E.K. Wimmer http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/#comment-648 E.K. Wimmer Thu, 18 Oct 2007 15:50:00 +0000 http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/#comment-648 Here's my dating advice even though you didn't ask for it! I think you are too cool for most guys. They can't handle your awesomeness. However, when dating, most people become obsessed with looking for reasons not to go on a second date, the way they talk, bad jokes, dumb shoes, etc... If you go into the date with the idea of it strictly being "a date" it's going to be awkward. You become hyper-aware of everything, so you're not yourself. At the end of the night you leave a false impression of who you are. I was done with dating when I met Maria. We just hung out as friends and I was myself, sure I said things to her as "a friend" that I would have avoided if I had known we'd get married, but that fact is we knew each other for real. This sounds dumb but I think it's cool to just hang out with single guys with your friends before actually setting up a date. This way you know his weird habits, but you like them. Bottom line is let someone see you in your natural element, don't go out for a movie... go organize something together! Does this make any sense or am I just putting you to sleep? Here’s my dating advice even though you didn’t ask for it! I think you are too cool for most guys. They can’t handle your awesomeness. However, when dating, most people become obsessed with looking for reasons not to go on a second date, the way they talk, bad jokes, dumb shoes, etc… If you go into the date with the idea of it strictly being “a date” it’s going to be awkward. You become hyper-aware of everything, so you’re not yourself. At the end of the night you leave a false impression of who you are. I was done with dating when I met Maria. We just hung out as friends and I was myself, sure I said things to her as “a friend” that I would have avoided if I had known we’d get married, but that fact is we knew each other for real. This sounds dumb but I think it’s cool to just hang out with single guys with your friends before actually setting up a date. This way you know his weird habits, but you like them. Bottom line is let someone see you in your natural element, don’t go out for a movie… go organize something together! Does this make any sense or am I just putting you to sleep?

]]> By: melissa http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/#comment-647 melissa Thu, 18 Oct 2007 15:19:13 +0000 http://leslieann.wordpress.com/2007/10/17/back-in-the-game/#comment-647 The weather might be gloomy and work may be tedious and the dating scene dull, but that new chi straightener will CHANGE YOUR LIFE. I got one a year or so ago and it might have been the best $150 I've ever spent. Enjoy your supersmooth hair! The weather might be gloomy and work may be tedious and the dating scene dull, but that new chi straightener will CHANGE YOUR LIFE. I got one a year or so ago and it might have been the best $150 I’ve ever spent.

Enjoy your supersmooth hair!

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